For what has to be the hojillionth time, I’ve just read a post on how Rose Tyler was selfish/bad/foolish/etc. for running off at the beginning of Season 1 when she had a perfectly good/nice/lovely boyfriend. (That’d be Mickey.)
I’m not going to get into the specific issues in the whole Rose/Mickey thing — for one thing, it’s already been done by the Great and All-Powerful Nili, and her work is probably quite a bit better than mine could ever be.
However, I do want to say this:
IF YOU ARE NINETEEN, AND YOU GET AN OFFER TO DO SOMETHING AMAZING — LIKE GO TO A GREAT SCHOOL OR GET A GREAT JOB OR TRAVEL THE WORLD OR GO ON FANTASTIC MAGICAL ADVENTURES THROUGH ALL OF TIME AND SPACE — FOR FUCK’S SAKE, TAKE IT!
I don’t care how nice your boyfriend (or girlfriend) is. Be respectful, be kind, be loving when you tell him that you are leaving.* Offer to stay in touch. Consider a long-distance relationship (and yeah, it is possible to have one of those). BUT FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT’S GOOD AND RIGHTEOUS IN THE WORLD, GO. Fly away, little bird, and don’t look back. Because you know what?
THAT IS WHAT NINETEEN IS FOR! For getting out, seeing the world, having adventures, doing great things to build your own self-worth. Unless you are married or have children with this person, you are not in a permanent relationship. Let me repeat that, because even if your significant other is the nicest of the nice guys, unless you are married or have kids together, YOU ARE NOT IN A PERMANENT RELATIONSHIP. You are not obligated to stay just so that you won’t hurt his feelings. You are not obligated to stay just because he is a sweet, lovely, perfect boyfriend. You are not obligated to stay just because he brings you flowers, buys you gifts, gives you back rubs, etc.
You are not obligated to stay just because he needs you to.
The only thing you owe him is a good-bye.
*Unless he is actually physically clinging to your leg, trying to hold you back like a pathetic man-child. Then, feel free to give them a peck on the cheek and a “see-ya-never!”